In the wake of the Penn State scandal, which is in the public consciousness and has prompted a huge reaction in advocating stronger laws and penalties to protect children from abuse, there is a story that you might have missed. This happened a few weeks ago, before the Sandusky story blew up in the press, but it has some tie-ins and I wanted to mention it.
My husband and I were talking a little while back and he asks me, “hey, did you hear that story about the female teacher who is going to jail because she had sex with some students?” I had not heard of it. So he tells me the story: “Apparently, she had orgies at her house with some of the 17 year old boys in her school and now she’s going to jail. The parents of the boys testified that it made the boys depressed and they were having severe emotional issues because of her actions. I think that is crazy! (the hubs still talking here, please note). When I was 17, if a hot teacher had wanted to have sex with me, I would have thought I had won the lottery. I never would be depressed or have anxiety afterwards. That is a young boy’s dream!”
So, here’s the story . . . a female gym teacher from Ohio, Stacy Schuler, invited some boys to her home after a football game, started drinking and supplying alcohol to the boys, and then initiated sex. This happened numerous times with a few different boys, most of which were around 17 or 18. Ohio law allows sex with anyone over 16, but it is illegal to have sex with a student. She was recently convicted of sexual battery and given a 4 year sentence. She actually pled insanity, and her defense was that she was drunk and had some psychological issues (they also blamed her veganism), and that she did not have the mental capacity to understand what she was doing was wrong. This defense was rejected out of hand. Being drunk and a vegan is apparently not a sufficient reason to qualify for insanity. Go figure.
Read the full story here.
And I’m sure everyone remembers Mary Kay Letourneau (now Mary Kay Fualaau). She was a 35 year old teacher who had sex with a 12 year old student of hers, Vili Fualaau. She was convicted of 2 counts of 2nd degree rape of a child, but only received 6 months of incarceration. It wasn’t until she was released, violated the conditions of her parole (no contact with Vili Fualaau . . . which she violated spectacularly by having sex with him in the back of her car), that she was sentenced to 7 years of incarceration. While this entire scenario is completely abhorant and I don’t think anyone would think that it was a sexy hot for teacher moment, she had 2 children by this kid, married him when she was released, and they are still together after all these years. So, was it fate that they be together? Does their love transcend all age differences (still totally yuck)? Was it true love?
I guess my real question here is this: are there others out there that feel as my husband does, that if a hot female teacher has sex with teenage boys, it shouldn’t be a crime? That it is every young boy’s dream, as indicated in Van Halen’s Hot for Teacher?
Two weeks ago, Glee featured that very song on their show, sung by Puck who is lusting after his teacher, and has actually kissed her on the show. The teacher is probably supposed to be in her 30s on the show, while Puck keeps indicating that he is 18, so it is legal (he’s probably about 30 himself in real life). But is it the same as Stacy Schuler? That it’s not about whether he is of age or not, but really the teacher/student relationship that makes it illegal? In the show, of course, it is just a fun reason to sing Van Halen, but in real life, should it be ok? Apparently, according to my husband, it should be.
I know he is not the only one who thinks this. I still think it’s not ok, and apparently Ohio law agrees with me. But it does seem like there is a definite double standard when it is male teacher/female or male student vs. female teacher/male student.
What do you think? I’m looking for some of my guys to respond to this as well. I really want to know what your thoughts are about this phenomenon of Hot for Teacher vs. Don’t Stand So Close to Me. Please weigh in . . .