I’ll Be Back

So, here’s the thing about life.  It gets in the way of all your best intentions of blogging.  Pretty sure Ghandi said that.  Or maybe it was Oprah.  I don’t know, someone important anyway.

I’ve been wanting to write something for weeks.  I kept thinking about it, and planning to do it, and trying to come up with something fun and entertaining with which to enthrall all of my many readers.  (That would be all 12 of you that are left, but “Hi” to my 2 new followers . . . *waves exuberantly*!!)  Yeah, but still I had nothing.  Nada.  Zip.  Zero.  Bubkis.  It’s pathetic, really.

Lately . . . ok, not so very lately, more like in the last couple of years . . . I’ve been trying to figure out what I want to do with my life.  What path I should take.  What career options I should pursue.  What my future holds.  Maybe I’m having a mid-life crisis or something.  Who knows.  But I have been swimming around in indecision and empty dreams for what seems like forever.  And I can’t for the life of me find my footing and decide what it is I actually want out of this confusing and ridiculous life.

For a while, blogging was the answer.  It was my therapy.  My fun little outlet of anonymity in my otherwise dreary and demanding life.  A chance to try out a new skill that I didn’t really know I possessed or enjoyed.  Writing became a release for me, and I looked forward to posting silly, irreverent, snarky posts, full of satire and wit.  At least, that’s what I tried to do.  Whether I was successful in that endeavor or not is for you guys to decide.

But lately, even my fun outlet has become a chore.  One more thing I feel like I have to force myself to do, in a list of a bajillionty things that must get done in my life on a daily basis.  And sadly, it must remain last on the list.  Maybe I haven’t been inspired enough to write.  Maybe this endless and frozen winter zapped me of my desire and ability to be creative.  Is my brain still frozen, even in this long awaited thaw of spring?  Could that be it?  Still, I have no answer.  I wish I did.

I hope that I can return to my former crazy and snarky self at some point, and dive right back into the blogosphere as if nothing ever happened to delay me.  But, unfortunately, I’m not there right now.

I mistakenly posted an old post a few weeks ago in my attempts to actually remove it from my site.  Nobody has ever called me technologically savvy.  When I did, I sent out a quick post telling everyone it was a mistake, and informing them that I would write a real post soon.  But I didn’t.  And I’m sorry.  I guess this counts, but I’m sure it’s not what you all were expecting.

While this isn’t an “I’m quitting blogging” post, I don’t know what is going on with me and writing right now.  I may get inspired tomorrow and have something brilliant for you.  Or you may not hear from me for a while.  But I wanted to at least check in and let everyone know what was going on.  For all of you that miss me desperately.  All 5 of you.  And really, don’t you have better things to do than think about me?  Go outside or something!  It’s a beautiful day.  Jeesh.

So for now, I bid you adieu.  Hopefully a short adieu.  To you and you and you.  And in the immortal words of the Terminator . . .

Come with me if you want to live.

61 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. icescreammama
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 08:36:29

    I hear you. And it shouldn’t be a job. Love the terminator quote. Enjoy life and we’ll be here when you return. 🙂

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  2. Vanessa-Jane Chapman
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 08:53:34

    So long! Hope you find what you’re looking for, and then come back and tell us all about it 🙂

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  3. bluzdude
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 08:53:44

    You should just have Val come visit every other weekend. Then you’ll have plenty to write about.

    But until then, I’ll just wait for your next post, whenever it may be.

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  4. Andrea @ Maybe It's Just Me
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 09:00:13

    2 words…Weekly Whacked….the sure for whatever ails us, I mean you, or maybe us!

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  5. aliceatwonderland
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 09:25:37

    I get it SO MUCH. This is exactly how I feel right now. Life is just confusing and no one said being an adult would suck so much at times.

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  6. Lisa from insignificant at best
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 09:33:21

    Hi Stranger! You may remember me from another life, when I used to comment on your blog. I haven’t stopped following, but I have been dealing with the EXACT same issue. I’ve thought about getting rid of my blog and haven’t had the heart to do it. I also have tried to start a handful of posts and haven’t been able to follow through either. I hope you get everything figured out and if you do, please let me know what you come up with. lol 🙂

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:15:56

      Lisa, lisa . . . hmmm. I seem to recall someone by that name from back in the day. 😉

      Yeah, if I discover the mystery, I’ll be sure to pass it around!

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  7. Abby
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 09:45:17

    We all go through this, some for much longer periods than others. I know I have to remind myself that blogging is a hobby and any obligation takes the fun out of any benefits I used to get. Life happens. Sometimes it helps to write, sometimes it helps to disconnect. You know what you need/want to do.

    As for what to do with your life? Hell, I ask myself that every day. For now, it’s getting through the next hour alive 😉 Hang in there, my friend.

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:18:02

      I have definitely been through the roller coaster of wanting/needing to write and having no interest/lack of desire. This feels different. But hopefully it will ebb soon and I can get back on the horse. Or something. The life part? Yeah, who the hell knows! 😉

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  8. Rosie
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 10:56:38

    Whenever you want to come back, we’ll be waiting for you! 🙂

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  9. Don't Quote Lily
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 11:21:54

    Sigh… I know that feeling. I hope life gives you a wonderful surprise one of these days,a and helps you figure things out.

    As for blogging, I was feeling that way too…like it’s a chore. I guess we can’t force it. Good luck to you Misty!

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:20:50

      A wonderful surprise? Is that like the Chinese prophecy of wishing you an “interesting life?” 😉

      I know you are feeling this, too. Let’s just hope we both figure out what we want to do, blogging-wise, and eventually get back into it.

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      • Don't Quote Lily
        May 14, 2014 @ 10:57:46

        Yup, I think it’s a bug that’s making its way to all the bloggers. I haven’t been into it for way too long. Man, blogging was so much easier when I was unemployed, lol.

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  10. Hippie Cahier
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 12:14:27

    I don’t “like” this post, but I completely understand it and post something similar regularly. You have a much busier life than I do, so I totally get it.

    I recommend this to all the change-seeking attorneys I know, because those who did it are so much happier: have you considered library school?

    Whatever it is and wherever it is, I wish you good things and happy times as you discover it . . . and you. 🙂

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:22:28

      You sound like a Hallmark card there at the the end. Have you thought of writing for them? 😉

      And as to the library school thing . . . yes, I have. That would involve going back to school, though, and it’s not something I think I can do right now. But it is definitely a consideration.

      Thanks for the support, as always!

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  11. brickhousechick
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 13:57:50

    Awww. Hope that life settles down a bit for you (when you find out what you wanna be when you grow up, let me know) and that taking a blogging break frees up some needed time. We’ll be waiting for you. 🙂

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:23:24

      It’s still feeling like I need to force myself to get back in, but I’m trying. As to that growing up thing? Yeah, when I figure it out, I’ll let you know. 😉

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  12. Kitten Thunder's Girl
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 15:57:36

    We’re not going anywhere – you do what you’ve got to do. Kitten Thunder and I sent you purr therapy for your soul because I’m pretty sure that’ll work to help you figure things out. And when you figure it out…tell the rest of us what IT is, okay?

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  13. Carrie - Cannibalistic Nerd
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 17:36:37

    I hear ya. Same position. I hope in your time away you figure it all out!

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  14. The Cutter
    Apr 23, 2014 @ 21:58:12

    I’m kind of in the same place. My posting has gotten more sporadic, and I feel that I’ve been forcing myself to write stuff. But I’ve gone through down phases before.

    Anyway, come back when you feel ready. We’ll probably be here waiting.

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  15. joannerambling
    Apr 24, 2014 @ 02:57:21

    We will be here when you get back into the blogging swing of things

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  16. Betty Shellhamer
    Apr 24, 2014 @ 06:38:38

    I don’t blog but I can count and it looks like a lot more than 5 peeps enjoy what you do with your spare time. I will be here when you return, promise.

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  17. Pam Huggins
    Apr 24, 2014 @ 08:51:44

    You know… don’t sweat it. When blogging becomes yet another dreaded task- take a break. Snarky ain’t all it’s cracked up to be anyway. Just be real- that’s the important thing.
    Take care of yourself!

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:28:00

      I’m working on some “real” right now. It might just be a little TOO real, so not sure if or when it will be published. But I’m trying at least. I’ll keep everyone posted.

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  18. thoughtsappear
    Apr 24, 2014 @ 15:45:16

    =(

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  19. The Byronic Man
    Apr 24, 2014 @ 16:26:37

    This seems to be happening more and more… I feel like my site is on life-support, and I regularly just don’t “feel” it. Not sure why. Other projects. Plateauing readership. Who knows. It kills me to think about ending my site, but I get very sad when I have the whole “Oh, crap, I suppose I need to post something” conversation with myself. It’s like realizing you’ve fallen out of love with someone.

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    • pegoleg
      May 01, 2014 @ 11:00:21

      Exactly. But just like any relationship, sometimes you go through a period of winter. Although the love lies dormant, you have to remember when it flowered and hold on and hope for spring.

      OK, that’s incredibly sappy. Shutting up.

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      • mistyslaws
        May 13, 2014 @ 12:30:27

        Oh my god, that’s EXACTLY it! Falling out of love. That’s just how it feels. It breaks my heart to think I’m going to walk away and leave behind something that’s been such a huge part of my life for the past few years, but the magic is gone. I hope the winter thaws and spring comes soon then.

        Peg, you’re such a softie!! 🙂

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  20. crazyemma
    Apr 24, 2014 @ 19:36:17

    I hope you find whatever “it” is you’re looking for. “It” has gotta be out there. Let “it” sneak up on you and surprise the bejeebers out of you. Then you may (or may not) feel the need to write about “it”. Whatever, I’m sure all us peeps ( 12 or 5 or 438 ) will eagerly click on the “New Post on Misty’s Laws” link. Until then, enjoy life, especially your family and friends…they’re the most important things you’ve got!

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:31:27

      Thank you, my friend. And if “it” truly does sneak up on me and scare the bejeebers out of me, you can be sure that I’ll be writing about THAT. 😉

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  21. She's a Maineiac
    Apr 28, 2014 @ 10:14:08

    There must be something in the bloggy water. I feel the same way. As a matter of fact, I have a post all written saying pretty much the same things as you. Right down to quoting Oprah.

    Well, I hope you come back because you always crack me up, Misty. And it’s all about what I want, right?

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:32:15

      I do this only for you. You knew that, right? 😉

      It must be winter. Say it’s just winter. As I sit here typing and it’s 85* and sunny outside. Oops.

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  22. flyingplatypi
    Apr 28, 2014 @ 13:18:03

    Awwww! I hear ya, girl. Sometimes it’s hard to write. I hope you return soon as I will miss reading about your insanity. Text me if you need a mental hug!!!

    Hugs!

    Valerie

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:35:07

      I always need a mental hug from you. And a mental ass grab.

      You heard Tony’s suggestion. Up for a trip . . . every weekend for the rest of your life? Come on! It’s for the blog!! Besides, I’m sure you miss me. Well, me and Waffle House! (That’s right, I’m pulling out the big guns. No shame!). 😉

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  23. Natalie DeYoung
    Apr 28, 2014 @ 14:31:28

    I’ve been in this place before. I think sometimes breaks are very necessary. You can’t keep up the brilliant pace forever.
    And I’m trying to figure out what I’m doing with life too. I feel like I should get it, but here I sit and 31 contemplating a doctoral program or nursing school. Sigh.

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:36:21

      I hear you. But I’m knocking on 40 and still don’t know what I want to do. I mean, I HAVE a career . . . that I loathe and am miserable in. It seems it’s time to start over. Sigh.

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  24. Go Jules Go
    Apr 29, 2014 @ 11:53:57

    Shoot if I can’t relate to this! I keep waiting for a second bloggy wind. I’m so glad you’re not officially quitting – you’ve got some loyal fans who are happy to tune in whenever the writing spirit moves you 😉

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:37:06

      I love my peeps, as you well know. But your life is just too fabulous to take a break and write to us peons. I’m not quite in that situation right now. 😉

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  25. Judah First
    Apr 29, 2014 @ 14:40:18

    Sounds like we’re all ‘relating’ to you, Misty. I know I am! Today I received a comment asking if I was ok! lol I never have blogged “regularly”, but getting involved in some WordPress “projects” (like Friday Fictioneers, etc.) for a time pushed me to blog more often. Lately I don’t have the heart for it very much. But I know things come and go in seasons, so OUR time for inspiration is coming again – I promise! See you on the other side of “uninspired”. 😉

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:38:30

      This did seem to strike a nerve in many a blogger. It’s sad that so many are experiencing this, but then again, I’m also glad I’m not alone. Doesn’t help with the bloggy creative juices, though. Ok, I’ll meet you at the bar over in Inspiration Point. I’ll be the one with the feet. 😉

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  26. jenniferjuneclarkj
    Apr 29, 2014 @ 18:58:58

    Same, here, chica. Too much shit to do, not enough time to do it. I’ve had many a blog plost flotting around my mind, but can’t seem to find the time to write them. Plus, the Wee Lassies just ain’t as funny at 8 as they were at 4.

    Do what needs doin’ and come back if you can!

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:40:34

      Ain’t it the truth! I used to get some bon mots almost every day and be able to do a Convos with the Kids to fill the gap in inspiration. Now . . . it’s like they’re all grown up and smart and articulate and stuff. Damn them!

      Life is such a bitch. I can’t even deal with her crap right now.

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  27. pegoleg
    May 01, 2014 @ 10:57:36

    Oh sweetie, I’m sorry you’re overburdened and floundering. You’re too young for a midlife, but I totally know the feeling. I stopped blogging in the fall, but decided I missed it too much. I missed all the wonderful people, like you.

    I hope you find what you’re looking for and don’t be too much of a stranger.

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    • mistyslaws
      May 13, 2014 @ 12:43:36

      Too young? Oh bless your heart, Peg. I’m pushing 40, so that would have me getting to almost 80. I’d say I’m right in mid-life territory.

      And I do miss everyone when I don’t blog. I try to still go around and comment on other blogs, but it’s like immersion. When you’re blogging, you think about all the other bloggers and go off merrily to visit. When you’re not, it’s like you are completely removed from that world. And besides, you don’t really want to read brilliantly and hilariously written blog posts when your head is full of tumbleweeds.

      Like I said, I’ll be back. You can’t keep a good man down. Or something.

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  28. Megan (Best of Fates)
    May 19, 2014 @ 14:25:17

    I totally went through a blogging-become-yet-another-chore and just stepped back for a really long time. But it worked and then when I decided to return I was able to really love it like I had at the beginning. And you’ve definitely succeeded at quality posts, which is why we’ll all stick around until you return!

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    • mistyslaws
      May 19, 2014 @ 14:36:33

      Aww, thanks Megan! I’m working on the return now. Although, it’s gonna be a departure from the norm, so not sure how many of my “fans” will hang in there with me. But, there’s something I need to write, and now is the time. Stay tuned . . .

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  29. PinotNinja
    Jul 10, 2014 @ 23:39:02

    You and me both, pal, although you came out of hibernation much quicker than I did. Somehow almost 4 months slipped away before I even noticed. And now that I’ve been back for approximately 6 hours, I don’t know what the hell I was waiting for.

    Let’s get into some trouble, shall we?

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