When I got pregnant with my first child, the hubs and I were convinced it was a girl. We had a perfect girl name all picked out . . . until the sonogram. Then we struggled and fought for 5 months to come up with a boy name we could both agree on.
The second pregnancy was pretty much the same . . . both thinking it was probably a girl, and struggling to come up with a name we agreed on for our second son.
As I previously stated, we never thought we’d have to go through all that again, but now that I’m pregnant, I’ll admit it . . . I really really really want this one to be a girl! Despite the odds not being in my favor (75% chance of having a boy after having 2 prior), I would not be swayed from my fervent hope of a baby girl.
When we first informed our kids that I was pregnant, it was unanimous. The boys were hoping for a baby brother. They were adamant that it was a boy, and even my hubs joined in by saying, “well, I make boys.” I told him to quit jinxing my uterus.
Soon after, he left for a business trip to Brazil for a week, and when he returned, he brought back a few very Brazilian presents. One such present was this:
I teased him that if he made boys, these might not be our baby’s color. Either that, or he bought the wrong size for me. But, it warmed my heart that he seemed to want a girl as well. At least for that brief moment when he was buying the shoes.
Immediately after we broke the big news of my pregnancy to everyone, I had a scheduled sonogram and blood testing for all types of issues. Since I’m “high risk” or “advanced maternal age” (i.e. old as fuck), I got the full screening to see if anything might be wrong with the baby genetically. What I didn’t realize at the time, as they never mentioned it, is that they could tell the sex of the baby once they received the results, which would be in about 2 weeks. I found out that little detail about a week later, when I spoke to the lab tech who called with the preliminary results, and she told me that she would call back with the final results later that week. Oh, and also, that she could tell me the sex of the baby at that point if I wanted. Um, yes. I wanted. And then I waited.
When she called back and told me the news, I was at work. I immediately texted my hubs to let him know:
Me: Well, you were right.
Hubs: The Havaianas were right?
Me: Nope, you make boys.
Hubs: I’m sorry, sweetie. I really wanted you to have your girl. Are you ok?
Me: Yeah, I’m fine. But damn you and your sperm!
And I really was fine. It’s not like it wasn’t expected. When she said “boy” it sounded completely right. I’m a little disappointed, I’ll admit it. But I will love this boy, just as I love the hell out of my other two.
So then, it was time to tell my kids that they had gotten their wish. I wanted to do something fun and creative that they would remember, since I figured they’d be pretty excited about the whole thing. So, I had an idea, and I ran with it. First, I decorated a big box:
Then, I filled it with supplies I had grabbed on the way home, covered it with a blanket, and took the boys outside to reveal the big news. I had them pull the blanket off on the count of three, and reveal the answer to the box’s question. To say they were excited is putting it mildly. My oldest ran around the yard pumping his fist and screaming, “yes!” for five minutes. It was adorable. I can only imagine the reaction if it had been a girl!
So, now we will have to go through the fun of trying to name this one as well. Based on the hubs and my history with attempting to name boys, maybe we’ll just wait until he comes out and let him name himself. Might be quicker than waiting for his parents to come to an agreement on boy names. (In case you were wondering, yes, I did already have a girl name totally picked out).
Also, I guess it’s time for a new baby picture as well. Can’t have my little man wearing women’s shoes! Might give him a complex right from the womb.
thoughtsappear
Jun 17, 2014 @ 08:50:04
Love those chucks!
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:01:55
Now I guess I’ll have to get a real pair for when he comes out, huh?
brickhousechick
Jun 17, 2014 @ 09:53:08
Congratulations on knowing the sex of your little miracle! If it makes you feel any better, my mother-in-law after having 4 boys was pregnant again and was praying and hoping for a girl. Back then they didn’t do ultrasounds so when she went into labor she got the surprise of her life. She gave birth to twin boys!! AY! Six boys! She adores her boys/now men and has a blast buying her granddaughters, everything pink. 🙂
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:02:36
Wow, that’s crazy! My husband assures me that #4 will be a girl. 😉
Nelson - One Old Sage
Jun 17, 2014 @ 09:57:50
Congratulations! My mother had three boys and one of her sayings was “A mother of three sons is guaranteed a place in heaven”. Based on what hellions my two oldest brothers were, I think she was right. Love the sneakers BTW. 🙂
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:03:49
I’m pretty sure that saying is true. And I did notice that you attributed the hellion status only to your older brothers. 😉
Nelson - One Old Sage
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:09:55
Of course! The baby of the family is always an angel 😇!
Carrie - Cannibalistic Nerd
Jun 17, 2014 @ 10:35:42
Congratulations! I’m not sure we would be able to ever name another baby. So, uh, good luck with that!
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:04:36
The last 2 were hell, I tell you. Hell. I actually have a list. Have had it for a few weeks now. Haven’t even shown or discussed it with the hubs. I don’t think I have the energy.
The Cutter
Jun 17, 2014 @ 10:42:32
I was worried that I only made girls, but a penis has been spotted on one of my in utero twins, so looks like I’ll be getting a mix.
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:05:09
Awww, twin boy/girl mix! Love that. At least you’ll be able to easily tell them apart. 😉
The Cutter
Jun 23, 2014 @ 20:44:17
Well, at least when their clothes are off
aliceatwonderland
Jun 17, 2014 @ 11:10:10
I was totally certain I’d have all boys because I love girly stuff like dolls, pink, etc. I got a girl first, so I figured the next one would definitely be a boy. Nope. Two girls. Go figure, huh? We did sort of get a boy though – Thing Two is a real tomboy and loves Star Wars and minecraft and most of her friends are boys. Congrats on your latest addition. 🙂
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:07:06
Yeah, I’m totally NOT girly, but still thought I’d get a girl at some point. Especially after my mother’s curse of, “Someday, I hope you have a girl Just. Like. You.” I mean, how could that NOT happen? 😉
And my 9 year old is already starting to act like a drama filled teenaged girl, so at least I’ll get to enjoy that!
sarah9188
Jun 17, 2014 @ 12:43:03
I’m so happy for you guys, even though you are severely outnumbered now. 😀
My poor mother had to deal with the “advanced maternal age” crap at 36 when she had my baby sister, and I spent a good deal of age 11 in doctor’s offices keeping my 8 year old sister company. She was supposed to be a boy – the one and only after 6 granddaughters – but alas. 🙂 She’s now turning 14 this summer – and is going into high school in the fall.
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:08:12
Thanks! Yeah, that is the good thing about having the boys be pretty significantly older than this one . . . built in caregivers. Or at least an extra set of hands to help change diapers! 😉
Don't Quote Lily
Jun 17, 2014 @ 12:47:33
Lol, awww….love the new sonogram pic with the boy shoes, lol. I was rooting for girl too, but oh well…healthy is all that counts! But 3 boys…oh boy! Good luck with the name. I have a list of girl names for when the time comes, but for a boy? No stinkin’ clue.
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:08:29
Boy names are hard!!
Hippie Cahier
Jun 17, 2014 @ 14:41:51
I was kind of looking forward to his pedicure. Maybe just for one picture?
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:08:47
I don’t think his dad will allow it, but I’ll see what I can do.
Andrea @ Maybe It's Just Me
Jun 17, 2014 @ 14:56:02
Well, at least now no princesses will be trying to take the queen’s throne!!!
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:09:08
Oh please, those boys rule that house! Now I’m just adding one more to the mix.
Jaclyn
Jun 17, 2014 @ 16:35:30
I saw this thing about this guy who gave his twins Wu-Tang Clan names… so that’s always a viable option.
Congrats on your newest addition to the sausage factory 🙂
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:09:43
Maybe I’ll just name him Tupac and be done with it.
Oy! So many penises!
Ice Scream Mama
Jun 17, 2014 @ 17:58:43
congratulations ! and welcome to the 3 boy club!! it’s crazy over here but loads of fun! 🙂
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:10:02
I know. I’m looking forward to it. I think?
Ice Scream Mama
Jun 23, 2014 @ 14:21:03
haha! it’s sooooo goood! no one loves there mamas like the boys. 🙂
thesinglecell
Jun 17, 2014 @ 19:27:51
I’m excited for you! I know this has all been rather shocking, but hey… those shoes look small enough that your little guy can wear them without any memory of being put in “girl shoes.” And besides… who cares?!
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:11:38
Some of my boys’ favorite characters are Sofia the First (Disney princess) and Doc McStuffins (Disney girl stuffed animal doctor). So, we’re not really big on established gender roles in our house anyway! 😉
thesinglecell
Jun 23, 2014 @ 19:09:18
Neph 1 LOVES princesses and pink. I wonder if this little guy winds up being your uber-boy.
joannerambling
Jun 17, 2014 @ 19:40:59
How cool a little boy why do we say things like that it isn’t like you are going to give birth to a big boy all babies are little ok some are bigger than others but all babies are little just saying
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:12:34
Traditionally, my kids’ heads are the size of bowling balls, so you could probably argue the “big” boy birth in my case. We’ll see.
Valentine Logar
Jun 18, 2014 @ 08:03:33
Congrats on a healthy baby boy. My youngest son is getting married in November, his fiance has two tween girls, they are lovely and I adore them and his future wife. He has explained to me, this is the only way I will get the granddaughters I so very much want, given odds.
Two sons
Two grandsons (elder son)
You will love the new one and have great fun I am certain.
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:13:16
Yeah, I guess I’m gonna have to wait to spoil grandkids now. They just better have some girls!
She's a Maineiac
Jun 18, 2014 @ 19:46:45
Aw, congrats on your newest baby blue!! Your boys will be such great big brothers to him. (Just don’t name him Justin Bieber)
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:13:41
Oh man! You know how hard this name thing is. One more name to cross off the list. :p
Julie
Jun 19, 2014 @ 01:16:34
Congratulations! I am a mother of two girls – I understand what it’s like to have same-sex children. I can tell you that we do feel a sense of mourning passing all the baseball fields at night. I think once you hold your baby in your arms, all you want is that baby – no matter what the sex is.
mistyslaws
Jun 23, 2014 @ 13:14:36
I totally agree. Maybe we can trade for a while. My son pretty much plays nothing BUT baseball, and I would love to take a little girl to the spa to get our toes done together!
Go Jules Go
Jun 24, 2014 @ 15:22:15
You are just the most awesome, creative mom of all time (Babs would be so proud of her surrogate daughter) – I love how you told the boys they were getting a baby brother!!
And you never know. He might like wearing pink.
mistyslaws
Jul 11, 2014 @ 09:13:43
Well, obviously I do it all for Babs!! 😉
Pink is very preppy. Neither of my boys will allow me to even walk a polo near them anymore, so maybe this one will be my prepster!
rachelocal
Jun 24, 2014 @ 18:32:07
Congrats, Misty! I’ve been MIA from the blogging world and I’m just catching up. Congrats on the baby boy!! So exciting and cutest ultrasound pic I’ve ever seen. 🙂
mistyslaws
Jul 11, 2014 @ 09:14:48
Thanks, Rache! I know about being away. If I didn’t have this to talk about, I’d probably be MIA for the last few months as well!