Well, it’s that time of year again. That magical time after the holidays are over, when you’ve joyously celebrated with family and friends, drinking and eating your weight in cheese and wine, celebrating a new year. But now, all of that frivolity and joy has come to an end, and it is time for your yearly trip to . . . depressionville. I don’t know if it’s the cold, the dark, the after holiday let down, or for me most specifically, the post flu recovery, but there is just something about this time of year that seems to bring people down into the depths of despair. There is sickness, and moping, and blues.
I am no stranger to these blues, as I currently seem to find myself similarly mired down in a deep state of funk.
But! I may have found a way to combat this funk, at least momentarily. I was recently reading some comments on a blog post (and for the love of Zeus, I cannot remember whose blog or who said it, otherwise I would totally credit them!), and a suggestion was given to write down 100 things that you like about yourself. Which I thought was somewhat brilliant, since I find myself constantly running a mental check list of opposite items. For example . . . Too fat, too lazy, Unappreciated at work, Not the best mom, Really not the best wife, Flabby arms, Large Ass, Ever widening hips, Crooked teeth, etc.
See how easy it is? I didn’t even have to think very hard about those things. They just leapt out of my noggin at warp speed! Which is pretty pathetic. I mean, if I am constantly thinking negative things about myself, no wonder I’m walking around all mopey.
So, we are all going to try this exercise, starting with yours truly. I am going to try to compile a list of 100 things that I actually like about myself. I’ll start here with however many I can think of, and continue later as more things come to me. And I challenge you to do the same. List some things that you like about you. You will be amazed at how many you can think of and how it will perk you up!
100 Things I like about ME:
1. I have adorable feet.
2. I am a good friend.
3. I always try to remember everyone’s birthday and always send a funny card to make them smile.
4. I have freakishly tiny wrists which confounds medical professionals.
5. I am highly knowledgable and skilled in my current profession.
6. I am usually very polite.
7. I kiss and hug my boys goodbye when I leave for work and before bed every single day.
8. I tell my boys that I love them every single day.
9. I have good skin.
10. I have shiny hair.
11. I make a mean veggie stir fry.
12. I make world class spaghetti sauce.
13. I’m not afraid to try new recipes.
14. I’m a pretty good writer.
15. I listen when people talk to me.
16. I love my kids with all my heart.
17. I love my husband, even if I don’t show it as much as I should.
18. I buy and send random gifts to people just because they make me think of that person and I think it will make them smile.
19. I send funny “thinking of you” cards to people when they are dealing with difficult times.
20. I always try to say something insightful, funny or meaningful when commenting on friends’ blogs.
21. I always try to comment on friends’ blogs, so they know that their efforts are valued and recognized.
22. I often buy random things for my boys when I am shopping, just because I know they will like them and it will make them happy, even if there is no occasion.
23. I treat my secretaries and other support staff with respect, and never demean or demand from them.
24. I tip well . . . unless there is blatantly horrible service.
25. I have yet to murder either my mother or my brother. (Seriously, this one alone might qualify me for sainthood).
26. I always say please and thank you.
27. I make sure my kids’ schedules for sports, camps, birthdays, etc. is organized and that everyone knows where they need to be and when they need to be there.
28. I schlep my kids to and from sports, camps and birthday parties constantly.
29. I have 2 full time jobs . . . lawyer and mommy, both of which I do diligently and tirelessly (Ok, so maybe not tirelessly, but continuously at least!).
30. I wash sheets and towels every week.
31. I make dinner for the kids almost every night and make sure their lunches are packed and ready for the next day.
32. I am a voracious reader.
33. I pretty much know a song by heart after hearing it only a couple times, both words and melody.
34. I have never once in my entire life worn leggings . . . and especially not ever as pants.
35. I am kind.
36. I am generous.
37. I am thoughtful.
38. I am good enough, smart enough and gosh darn it, people like me! (Just seeing if you are still paying attention).
39. If I stop at Dunkin Donuts on my way home (i.e. not on the way to work or somewhere else) I will most always pick up a coffee for the hubs.
40. . . . . . . . .
Phew! Ok, that’s all I can do for now. And believe me, I worked on that list for a while, continuously coming back to it when I thought of something else. It’s hard. But you know what? I feel a little bit better about myself. Once you look at the good things in black and white, it definitely lifts your mood a bit.
So now it’s your turn. I want you to list some things you like about yourself. It doesn’t have to be 100. And really, this comment section would get ridiculous if everyone did 100, but just do as many as you can. Or, if you would like to do all 100, maybe make it your own blog post and challenge your own readers to do the same! Do it. It really will make you feel so much better. The gauntlet has been thrown . . . prepare to accept the challenge, my friends!
Mike C
Jan 14, 2013 @ 10:27:43
Hmmmm… impressive list. Can you actually prove that you have adorable feet? Put those babies to work for you!
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:23:33
Yes, I can.
Mike C
Jan 22, 2013 @ 16:06:56
lol – OK then, more pretty feet pics please
hiddinsight
Jan 14, 2013 @ 10:28:35
I have great fingernails. Cheers 🙂
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:24:00
Yay for great fingernails!! Thanks for playing along. 🙂
Vesta Vayne
Jan 14, 2013 @ 10:29:37
Awesome post idea. You’re right, it’s so easy to focus on the negative in anything, especially in our own lives.
And you do have adorable feet:)
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:24:29
Why thank you. But you were supposed to tell me something you like about YOU!!
rachelocal
Jan 14, 2013 @ 11:09:12
That was my blog, Misty! When I wrote my “I’m so depressed I’ve been talking to my cats and wearing leggings as pants” post. And this is the lovely lady who commented the suggestion: http://kissmeoutofdesire.wordpress.com/
Indeed you are an awesome commenter! I love when you comment on my blog!
As I read this post, I was thinking that my “depression” wasn’t really related to how I felt about myself, but was more of an external circumstance thing. But then, I got to thinking about the internal dialogue I have with myself all the time–negative dialogue. I’m making a list too! The first thing on it: I inspired (in an inadvertent way) this blog post. 🙂
mistyslaws
Jan 14, 2013 @ 12:41:31
Yay!! I’m so glad you told me it was yours. That was driving me crazy trying to figure out where that was from. Well, crazi-ER. 😉 Thanks, Rache!!
Go Jules Go
Jan 14, 2013 @ 15:00:01
Ah, you two joining forces – even if inadvertantly – is bound to result in greatness (and warm fuzzies, I might add)!
rachelocal
Jan 14, 2013 @ 19:58:33
Aw Jules! Thank you!
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:26:34
Just think of what could happen if the 3 of us collaborate. World domination?? 😉
dailekelleher
Jan 17, 2013 @ 00:34:05
Wow! I feel really special and warm and fuzzy that my ‘100 things I like about myself’ has inspired you to create your own list. This has made my day 😀
Thanks Rachel for letting me know!
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:25:32
Thank YOU so much for the awesome idea. And thanks for checking in the lead everyone to the source! 🙂
winopants
Jan 14, 2013 @ 14:19:40
Yours are so sweet! I’d make a list but I’d hate for everyone to see what a closet narcissist I am, doh
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:27:18
The whole point is to list things you like about yourself!! Come out of the closet, Wino. This is a safe place. 😉
Rosie
Jan 14, 2013 @ 14:55:19
You’re good enough, you’re smart enough, and dogonne it, people like you!!!
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:27:40
Ha! That’s what I keep telling my mirror.
Go Jules Go
Jan 14, 2013 @ 15:01:35
What a great post to help combat the January blues, Misty! I had to do this not too long ago as part of The Artists’ Way exercises, but it was only 50. I was grasping at straws by the end. (I like my…cuticles! Yes!)
I’m glad you talked about all of the thoughtful things you do for people / cards you send, etc. I was just thinking about that yesterday. Getting Misty mail is the SHIZ!!!
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:28:43
Yes, I think that’s one of my better traits. And I’m so glad you like them!
Ok, you have to give me at least ONE good thing from that list (besides the cuticle thing, because yeah, that’s kinda stretching it). 😉
renée a. schuls-jacobson
Jan 14, 2013 @ 15:33:15
While i have never seen your freakishly small wrists, I have been on the receiving end of those “thinking of you” cards you were talking about. You’re not kidding. They really do make you smile. I’m going to adopt that as a practice this year. I’m glad you’re feeling better and I hope that you continue to do so.
I’m tweeting this.
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:29:25
Aw, I’m so glad you like them, Renee.
Thanks so much for the tweeting. Whatever that is. 😉
What’s something you like about YOU?
Lisha @ The Lucky Mom
Jan 14, 2013 @ 17:36:17
I have tiny wrists, too! I buy my bracelets in the children’s jewelry section. My hips, on the other hand, very much adult-sized.
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:30:02
I hear ya, girl. Child wrists, big momma hips. Sistahs!! 😉
Mayor Gia
Jan 14, 2013 @ 18:18:13
Aw, good idea! There are lots of good things about you!
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:30:16
Thanks! But what’s something good about YOU?
cestlavie22
Jan 14, 2013 @ 21:13:59
I like this idea alot. A friend of mine suggested something similar to this- I might try this out on a blog post soon- giving credit of course 🙂
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:30:38
Ooh, good. Let me know. Can’t wait to read it!
One Old Sage
Jan 14, 2013 @ 21:20:13
I loved this post. Great job.
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:30:49
Thanks.
mark
Jan 15, 2013 @ 00:24:54
I’d like to add to your list, as I noticed a big one missing: you’re very trustworthy, and I value that and many of the other things on your list along with your friendship.
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:31:41
That IS a good one. That is totally going on the list. I AM trustworthy. I guess I figured that kinda goes under the “good friend” category, no?
Ok Mark, fess up. One good thing about YOU . . . and GO.
mark
Jan 22, 2013 @ 18:49:27
This is easy (I’m going for the ‘low hanging fruit’): I’m good at finding positive qualities in my friends.
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 18:56:48
Don’t hurt yourself. :p
pegoleg
Jan 15, 2013 @ 12:46:58
What a great idea, Misty! I am a hopelessly jumbled mess of ego-centricity and pathetic self-doubts, with the negative generally outweighing the positive. I think there is something about January that just sets off depression because I’m feeling it to.
Way to go, Stuart Smally.
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:32:29
Word, Peg. It is all around us.
Give me something you like about you. Trust me, it will make you feel good. 🙂
Seraphinalina
Jan 15, 2013 @ 12:56:38
What a great idea. I’m going to pick up the thread on my blog. But like you, I don’t think I can do 100 in one go. It’s a good list to look at on blue days.
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:33:14
Yeah, I would say 50 is probably doable, even if a bit of a stretch. I just said 100 because that’s what I heard, but if I had to rethink it, I would have cut it down. Good luck!
Carrie - Cannibalistic Nerd
Jan 15, 2013 @ 18:56:16
As the recipient of number 18, I can attest that it’s a WONDERFUL thing about you! 🙂
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:33:34
Thanks, Carrie. Now, how about something good about YOU!!
Valerie
Jan 15, 2013 @ 20:28:37
40. You are awesome at lists!!
41. I love you!
I doubt I’d be able to hit 100… But, gosh darn it! It’s worth a shot.
Hugs!
Valerie
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:34:38
I bet you could do it. You kinda love you. 🙂
I’ll start you off . . .
1. Gives great hugs.
2. Awesomeness personified.
3. Mad zombie killing skills.
See? Easy peasy. 🙂
dailekelleher
Jan 17, 2013 @ 00:42:22
Shucks! My comment on Rachel’s Table’s blog post http://rachels-table.com/2013/01/09/like-new/ inspired this list! It feels kind of awesome!
I have suffered from depression and I know I can get into a ‘funk’ every now and again so I thought of this as a little boost for me whenever I feel down. Because it’s always easier to remember and obsess over the negative rather than remember the things that YOU like about yourself.
I think the important word is ‘like’ it’s not as strong as love and it’s easier to be convinced that there are plenty of things to be ‘liked’ about you. It’s also pretty cool when friends or fellow bloggers give you some ideas for your list that you may not have been brave enough to put down yourself.
It’s funny because a lot of people say to me “100 things you like about yourself? That’s a lot! How are you going to do it?” to this I reply with confidence – “I know I can do it, because I am awesome”
Good luck! 😀
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:35:32
It is a fabulous idea. It really did make me feel better. I am so glad you shared that on Rachel’s blog. Thanks again!
Brett Minor (@brettminor)
Jan 21, 2013 @ 04:49:17
100 is a lot. I have a more than healthy self esteem, but 100?
1. I like bacon.
2. Red loves me.
Now I’m happy.
mistyslaws
Jan 22, 2013 @ 13:36:05
It IS a lot. Not sure I will ever get to that many. It’s hard.
That’s a good list. Well done.